My work is for the woman who...
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Feels numb in a life that looks “good” on paper.
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Loves her partner, but doesn’t feel lit up anymore.
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Smiles on the outside while something inside her is starving.
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Has had the affair… almost had it… or lies awake wondering why she wants to.
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Wakes up with guilt, or with the terrifying thought that she could cross a line.
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Can’t stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
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Feels disconnected from her body and doesn’t know what she actually wants anymore.
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Knows something has cracked open, and doesn’t want to go back to sleep.
Hi, I'm Alex
I work with women who've gone numb in their relationships. The ones who've crossed a line they said they never would, almost did, or lie awake at 2am terrified they're about to.
I get it. I lived it. On paper, my life looked enviable. Great husband, good career. Beautiful home. But I couldn't feel any of it.
I was so disconnected from myself that when I betrayed someone I truly loved, it didn't just break my marriage. It broke me open.
And honestly? That rupture saved my life.
It forced me to stop performing and stop pretending I was fine when I'd been hollow for years.
The affair wasn't the problem. It was a symptom. A loud, messy symptom of all the parts of me I'd silenced to be "good."
Today, I wake up next to a man who actually sees me. I can cry without apologising for it. I want things, and I'm not ashamed of that anymore. My relationships are honest, even when that's uncomfortable.
That's the work I do now.
Not helping you "fix" what happened. Helping you understand why it did, and who you become when you stop betraying yourself.
From self-doubt to self-trust.
From numb to alive.
From being the good wife to being the real woman.
If that sounds like where you're headed, I'm here.
READ MY STORY →This isn’t about talking your marriage to death.
You’ve probably already analysed this from every angle. Replayed the conversations, tried to work out if you should stay or go, lied awake wondering what’s wrong with you and how it got to this point.
But this was never just about the relationship. If you’re honest, you went numb long before anything happened.
Somewhere along the way, you became the good one. The reliable one. The one who keeps things together. You learned how to smooth things over, not rock the boat, make sure everyone else was okay.
And slowly, without really noticing, you stopped feeling much at all. This work is about you not disappearing anymore.
It’s about being able to say you’re hurt without bracing for fallout. About admitting you want more without feeling selfish. About feeling like a sexual woman again, not just a responsible one. About wanting your partner instead of just managing him.
It’s not for everyone.
But if something in you knows you’re done just surviving your relationship and ready to feel alive inside it, then you’re exactly where you need to be.
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Together, we’ll meet the version of you
who went numb. The one who stopped putting herself first. Who said yes when she meant no. Who’s been going through the motions for years, and who reached for something just to feel alive again.
Maybe that was an affair.
Maybe it was almost one.
Maybe it’s still a secret.
Either way, she’s not broken. She’s hungry.
Through this work, you’ll learn how to:
• Stay present in difficult conversations instead of going numb or freezing
• Tell the truth about what you want, even if you're not sure they can meet it
• Understand why you reached outside your relationship (or wanted to) instead of shaming yourself for it
• Feel desire again in your marriage, not just in fantasy
• Rebuild self-trust so you can speak, choose, and stay without abandoning yourself
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Your Journey Begins Here
The Softening Sessions
A live 90-minute nervous system reset for women who crossed a line, came close, or feel like they’re standing on the edge of one.
If you’ve been bracing for days… if your mind won’t slow down… if your body feels constantly on edge, this is where you get to stop.
You don’t have to talk, or explain yourself, you don't even have to have your camera on.
For 90 minutes, you soften. We calm the body, quiet the mind spiral, and give you a break from holding everything together.
You’ll leave steadier, calmer and less caught in your head.
Every Month (Thursday)
£44 | 8pm GMT | Recording available
The Sanctuary
A monthly space for women who crossed a line, came close, or feel like they’re standing on the edge of one.
If your head feels loud all the time… If you keep replaying conversations and second-guessing yourself…If you swing between guilt, fear, desire, and “how did I get here?”
This is somewhere you can just breathe. You don’t have to have the answers, or decide what you’re doing with your relationship, and you don’t have to pretend you’re coping better than you are.
Over time inside The Sanctuary, spirals don’t grip you for hours. You pause before sending the text. The tightness in your chest eases and you feel steadier - even if nothing has been fully resolved yet.
And once the noise settles, for many women it becomes the first step toward deeper work.
Open now. Join anytime. £277 per month
The Healed Heart
A 6-month group experience for women who can’t stop thinking, “What’s wrong with me?”.
If you crossed a line, came close, or are scared you might, and it’s shattered how you see yourself, this is where we begin.
This is where the shame softens. Where you understand the pattern instead of just blaming yourself. Where you realise you’re not broken, you were numb.
Inside this space, you’ll rebuild self-trust, understand why you shut down or reached outside your marriage, and end the self-hatred that’s keeping you stuck.
We begin April 2026. Book your discovery call today.
1-to-1 Relational Coaching
A private space for women who’ve gone numb in their relationships, whether you crossed the line, almost did, or are terrified you might.
This is where we get to the root of why you shut down, why you reached outside your marriage (or wanted to) and why desire felt easier in secrecy than at home.
Together, we unravel the patterns and rebuild self-trust so you can feel alive in your marriage, not just in fantasy.
Next spot available: March 2026.
Book Your FREE 45-Minute Discovery Call
For the woman who knows something is wrong, not just in her marriage, but in the way she’s been living. Perhaps you've crossed a line, or you are worried you might.
This is an honest conversation about what’s actually happening in your love life, where you’re stuck, and what kind of support will move you forward.
We’ll look at:
• Where you are
• What the patterns are that keep repeating and the root of them all
• What you actually want, even if that feels uncomfortable
If we’re a fit, I’ll guide you toward the right next step:
The Sanctuary – stabilise and steady yourself
The Healed Heart – stop believing you’re broken
1:1 Coaching – reclaim aliveness and desire in your marriage
You don’t need to have it all figured out, you just need to be honest about where you are.
BOOK MY CALL →The Healed Heart
A 6-month group program for women who want to stop feeling like the villain of their own story, and start healing the root instead of just blaming themselves.
Testimonials...
"The Healed Heart is the best healing space I've ever been a part of. I have done a lot of therapy and personal development work, but after my affair I didn't feel safe anywhere to be fully seen and let the full truth of my story be known. That changed when I started working with Alex, and it was a huge exhale for my soul. Alex is the most compassionate and skilled space holder I've ever worked with. She helps us navigate the most vulnerable and hurt parts of ourselves with love, honesty, and complete non-judgment. Even just the sound of her voice makes me feel more relaxed and loving towards myself! She creates a group dynamic where everyone feels completely safe and held, and my HH community has become like soul family. I genuinely don't know where I'd be without the Healed Heart, but it is the best decision I could have made for myself while navigating the most difficult time of my life and because of it, I've taken massive strides towards self-love, understanding, and acceptance. There is no one doing this work like Alex - if you're recovering from an affair, it's the greatest gift you can give yourself."
Maya
"Alex is the most kind, real, patient, and loving coach, and she was absolutely called and meant for this work. Not only is her British voice soothing and calm, but she also has the most genuine and authentic caring soul to lead this type of work. This isn’t easy work, I knew that going in, but it is exactly what I was looking for on my healing journey and exactly what I needed. Alex cultivates an authentic community and allows you to show up exactly as you are, and that’s what so many of us truly need. I’m so grateful for this group. Even though I’m only halfway through, I’m already intrigued by what’s to come, and I’m genuinely considering how I can continue working with Alex because I can’t imagine her not being part of my life in some capacity. If you decide to join the Healed Heart Program, it’s something you will not regret, it will only be for the better."
Stefanie
